糟糕的嫉妒的英文

未与你共度的一切| All This I Did Without You Conservationist and author Gerald Durrell and Lee McGeorge first met in 1977; two years later they were married.By the time Durrell died in 1995 they had travelled the world together on numerous conservation expeditions and co-written two books: A Practical Guide for the Amateur Naturalist, and Durrell in Russia. In 1978, a year after they first met, Gerald Durrell wrote a love letter to his future wife. 生态环境保护者以及作家Gerald和Lee在1977年第一次见面，两年后他们结婚了。到1995年Durrell去世时，他们一起探秘了很多的保护区，合著了两本书《业余博物学家的实用指南》和 《德雷尔在俄罗斯》。在1978年，他们初见之后的一年 ，Gerald给他未来的妻子写了这封情书。▲Gerald Dureell All This I Did without You ByGerald Dureell Narrated by Tom Hiddleston July 31st, 1978 1978年7月31日 My darling McGeorge, 亲爱的麦克乔治： You said that things seemed clearer when they were written down. 你曾说过把事情写下来，他们就会变得更清楚。 Well, here with a very boring letter in which I will try and put everything down so that you may read and re-read at horror at your folly in getting involved with me. 那么这恐怕是一封很无聊的信，在信里我会试着把所有的东西都写下来，因此你会在恐惧中反复阅读，为爱上我而感到愚蠢。 Deep breath. 深呼吸。 To begin with I love you with a depth and passion that I have felt for no one else in this life and if it astonishes you it astonishes me as well. 首先，我如此深切热烈的爱你，以至于我此生不会再爱上其他人，如果这让你吃惊，它同样让我觉得不可思议。 Not, I hasten to say, because you are not worth loving. 我必须要说，并不是你不值得去爱。 Far from it. 远不是如此。 It's just that, first of all, I swore I would not get involved with another woman. 只是，首先我发誓我不会再爱上另外一个女人。 Secondly, I have never had such a feeling before and it is almost frightening. 其次，我从未有过这样的感觉，因而感到害怕。 Thirdly, I would never have thought it possible that another human being could occupy my waking (and sleeping) thoughts to the exclusion of almost everything else. 第三，我从未想过会有一个人会占据我所有的时间（包括睡觉的时候）让我无时无刻不在想她。 Fourthly, I never thought that – even if one was in love – one could get so completely besotted with another person, so that a minute away from them felt like a thousand years. 第四，我从未想过会有人，即使是处于恋爱中的人，会如此迷恋对方，以至于分开哪怕一分钟都像相隔千年。 Fifthly, I never hoped, aspired, dreamed that one could find everything one wanted in one person. 第五，我从未希望、渴求、幻想过能在另外一个人身上得到我想要的一切。 I was not such an idiot as to believe this was possible. 我还没有愚蠢到认为这是可能的。 Yet in you I have found everything I want: you are beautiful, gay, giving, gentle, idiotically and deliciously feminine, sexy, wonderfully intelligent and wonderfully silly as well. 但是在你身上我找到了我想要的一切：你不但温柔美丽，还性格随和乐于助人，你性感撩人、聪明机灵中还带着点傻里傻气的天真。I want nothing else in this life than to be with you, to listen and watch you (your beautiful voice, your beauty), to argue with you, to laugh with you, to show you things and share things with you, to explore your magnificent mind, to explore your wonderful body, to help you, protect you, serve you, and bash you on the head when I think you are wrong … 我这辈子只想和你在一起，聆听你的动人声音，欣赏你的美丽容颜，与你同甘共苦，分享生活点滴，探索你的浩渺思绪和曼妙身姿，帮助你，保护你，服务你，在我认为你犯错了的时候念叨你…… Not to put too fine a point on it I consider that I am the only man outside mythology to have found the crock of gold at the rainbow's end. 坦白来说，我认为我是唯一一个在神话中的彩虹尽头发现了金匣子的人。 But – having said all that – let us consider things in detail. 但是说完这些，让我们从细节角度考虑。 Don't let this become public but … well, I have one or two faults. 不要公开这件事……但是确实，我会犯一回两回错。 Minor ones, I hasten to say. 甚至更多小错误，我必须承认。 For example, I am inclined to be overbearing. 比如说，我有时候会有些蛮横。 I do it for the best possible motives (all tyrants say that) but I do tend (without thinking) to tread people underfoot. 我这么做的目的是好的（所有的暴君都这么说），但是我确实容易（不加思考）忽略别人的想法。 You must tell me when I am doing it to you, my sweet, because it can be a very bad thing in a marriage. 亲爱的，当我对你这么做的时候你一定要告诉我，因为这会是一段婚姻中非常糟糕的事情。 Right. Second blemish. 那么，第二个缺点。 This, actually, is not so much a blemish of character as a blemish of circumstance. 这其实是一个形势的瑕疵而不是一个人性格上的瑕疵。 Darling I want you to be you in your own right and I will do everything I can to help you in this. 亲爱的我希望你有做自己的权利，为此我会尽我所能来帮助你。 But you must take into consideration that I am also me in my own right and that I have a headstart on you … 但同样的你也要考虑到我也有做自己的权利，而且我比你有优势…… What I am trying to say is that you must not feel offended if you are sometimes treated simply as my wife. 我想说的是，如果有的时候我怠慢了你，你千万不要气恼。 Always remember that what you lose on the swings you gain on the roundabouts. 要时刻记住失之东隅，收之桑榆。 But I am an established 'creature' in the world, and so – on occasions – you will have to live in my shadow. 然而我在世界上算是一个“知名”人物，有时你可能会活在我的光环之下。 Nothing gives me less pleasure than this but it is a fact of life that has to be faced. 这是让我最不开心的一件事，但是我们却都要面对。 Third (and very important and nasty) blemish: jealousy. 第三个缺点（非常重要和严重）：嫉妒。 I don't think you know what jealousy is (thank God) in the real sense of the word. 我认为你并不知道嫉妒的真正含义（感谢上帝）。 I know that you have felt jealousy over Lincoln’s wife and child, but this is what I call normal jealousy, and this – to my regret – is not what I've got. 我知道你肯定羡慕过林肯的妻子和孩子，这种是我所说的一般嫉妒，但这很遗憾也是我没能得到的。 What I have got is a black monster that can pervert my good sense, my good humour and any goodness that I have in my make-up. 我得到的是一个能够扭曲我的想法、幽默和善良的邪恶怪物。 It is really a Jekyll and Hyde situation … my Hyde is stronger than my good sense and defeats me, hard though I try. 这是一个双重人格的情况……我的邪恶面要比我的善良面更强，并且打败了我，尽管我尽力反抗也于事无补。 As I told you, I have always known that this lurks within me, but I could control it, and my monster slumbered and nothing happened to awake it. 正如我告诉你的一样，我一直知道这些潜伏在我心中，我能控制它，我内心的怪物正蛰伏，却没有任何事物能够唤醒它。 Then I met you and I felt my monster stir and become half awake when you told me of Lincoln and others you have known, and with your letter my monster came out of its lair, black, irrational, bigoted, stupid, evil, malevolent. 之后我遇见了你，我心中的怪物苏醒了，并且在你告诉我林肯以及其他你认识的人的时候就已经半醒了，随着你的信，我心中那黑暗的、不理性的、偏执的、愚蠢的、邪恶的怪物走出了它的兽穴。 You will never know how terribly corrosive jealousy is; it is a physical pain as though you had swallowed acid or red hot coals. 你不会知道恶毒的嫉妒会有多么糟糕，那像是喝下迷幻药或者是烧红煤块带来的痛。 It is the most terrible of feelings. 这是最糟糕的感觉。 But you can't help it – at least I can't, and God knows I've tried. 但是你却无能为力——至少我不行，上帝知道我尝试过了。 I don't want any ex-boyfriends sitting in church when I marry you. 当我迎娶你的时候，我可不想有任何一位男朋友坐在教堂里面。 On our wedding day I want nothing but happiness, both for you and me, and I know I won't be happy if there is a church full of your ex-conquests. 在我们结婚的那天，我只希望你我都幸福，但是我知道，如果教堂里都是你的前任，我是不会高兴的。 When I marry you I will have no past, only a future: I don't want to drag my past into our future and I don't want you to do it, either. 当我娶你的时候，我们就忘掉过去，只看到未来：我不想我的过去介入我们的未来，我同样不希望你的过去介入。 Remember I am jealous of you because I love you. 记住，我嫉妒你，是因为我爱你。 You are never jealous of something you don't care about. 你不会嫉妒任何你不关心的事。 O.K. enough about jealousy. 好了，关于嫉妒就到这里。 Now let me tell you something. 现在我要告诉你一些事情。I have seen a thousand sunsets and sunrises, on land where it floods forest and mountains with honey coloured light, 我看过无数次日出日落，在大地上，森林和群山都被笼罩在光芒之中， at sea where it rises and sets like a blood orange in a multicoloured nest of cloud, slipping in and out of the vast ocean. 在大海上，为五彩的云朵增添上一抹血橘色，在无垠的大海上划进划出。 I have seen a thousand moons: harvest moons like gold coins, winter moons as white as ice chips, new moons like baby swans' feathers. 我看过无数次月亮：满月如金币，寒月洁白似冰屑，新月宛如小天鹅的羽毛。 I have seen seas as smooth as if painted, coloured like shot silk or blue as a kingfisher or transparent as glass or black and crumpled with foam, moving ponderously and murderously. 我看过大海平静如止，颜色如缎，或蓝如翠鸟，或如玻璃般透明，抑或如乌黑褶皱的泡沫，沉重而危险的翻动着。 I have felt winds straight from the South Pole, bleak and wailing like a lost child; winds as tender and warm as a lover's breath; 我感受过来自南极的烈风，寒冷呼啸着像一个走失的儿童；感受过如爱人呼吸般的柔风； winds that carried the astringent smell of salt and the death of seaweeds; winds that carried the moist rich smell of a forest floor, the smell of a million flowers. 掺杂着苦涩的咸味和海草死亡气息的海风；弥散着森林大地肥沃土壤气息和千万种花香的山风。 Fierce winds that churned and moved the sea like yeast, or winds that made the waters lap at the shore like a kitten. 狂风涛海如同酵母发酵起沫，或使海水轻拍海岸像小猫一般。 I have known silence: the cold, earthy silence at the bottom of a newly dug well; the implacable stony silence of a deep cave; 我了解宁静：一口新井中寒冷又朴实的宁静；一个深洞中无情冷酷的宁静； the hot, drugged midday silence when everything is hypnotised and stilled into silence by the eye of the sun; the silence when great music ends. 炎热迷离的午后万物被炎炎烈日催眠的宁静；一曲美妙音乐结束的宁静。 I have heard summer cicadas cry so that the sound seems stitched into your bones. 我听过夏日蝉鸣如芒在骨。 I have heard tree frogs in an orchestration as complicated as Bach singing in a forest lit by a million emerald fireflies. 我听过树蛙在无数萤火虫点亮的森林中演奏着如巴赫管弦乐般美妙复杂的旋律。 I have heard the Keas calling over grey glaciers that groaned to themselves like old people as they inched their way to the sea. 我听过啄羊鹦鹉飞跃冰川叫喊着，像老人呻吟着走向大海。 I have heard the hoarse street vendor cries of the mating Fur seals as they sang to their sleek golden wives, 我听过声嘶力竭的街道商贩成交皮草生意的叫嚷，好像是对他们鎏金妻子的赞美； the crisp staccato admonishment of the Rattlesnake, the cobweb squeak of the Bat and the belling roar of the Red deer knee-deep in purple heather. 响尾蛇清脆却不连贯的警告声；成群结队的蝙蝠的刺耳叫声；马鹿在齐膝的紫石楠中的咆哮。 I have heard Wolves baying at a winter's moon, Red howlers making the forest vibrate with their roaring cries. 我听过狼群在冬夜对月长嚎，红吼候啸震山林。 I have heard the squeak, purr and grunt of a hundred multi-coloured reef fishes. 我听过珊瑚群中异彩斑斓的鱼群发出的吱吱、呱呱和呢喃。 I have seen hummingbirds flashing like opals round a tree of scarlet blooms, humming like a top. 我见过蜂鸟如同宝石一般围绕着开红花的树闪烁，如陀螺一般哼鸣作响。 I have seen flying fish, skittering like quicksilver across the blue waves, drawing silver lines on the surface with their tails. 我见过飞鱼如水银一般穿越蓝色海浪，用他们的尾翼在海面上划下银色痕迹。 I have seen Spoonbills flying home to roost like a scarlet banner across the sky. 我见过琵鹭像朱红的旗帜从鸟巢飞往鸟群。 I have seen Whales, black as tar, cushioned on a cornflower blue sea, creating a Versailles of fountain with their breath. 我见过漆黑洳焦的鲸鱼，在如矢车菊般的蓝色海洋中停留，呼吸间创造了一个凡尔赛宫的喷泉。 I have watched butterflies emerge and sit, trembling, while the sun irons their wings smooth. 我见过阳光熨展蝴蝶的翅膀，它浮现、停顿、又扇动。 I have watched Tigers, like flames, mating in the long grass. 我见过鲜如火焰的老虎在长草之中亲昵。 I have been dive-bombed by an angry Raven, black and glossy as the Devil's hoof. 我曾被愤怒的乌鸦俯冲攻击，如魔鬼的爪牙黑暗顺滑。 I have lain in water warm as milk, soft as silk, while around me played a host of Dolphins. 我曾躺在温暖如牛奶、柔顺如丝绸的水中，任一群海豚在我身边嬉戏。 I have met a thousand animals and seen a thousand wonderful things … 我曾遇到过无数生灵，曾看过无数美景…… All this I did without you. 这一切却未与你共度。 This was my loss. 这都是我的损失。 All this I want to do with you. 这些事情我都想与你共度。 This will be my gain. 这一切才会是我的收获。 All this I would gladly have forgone for the sake of one minute of your company, for your laugh, your voice, your eyes, hair, lips, body, 为了有你一分钟的陪伴，我愿放弃这一切，为你的笑声，你的声音，你的眼睛，头发，嘴唇，身体， and above all for your sweet, ever surprising mind which is an enchanting quarry in which it is my privilege to delve. 尤其是你善良又令人惊喜的心，那是只有我有权利开发的宝藏。 Letter to his fiancée Lee, (31 July 1978)一封给未婚妻的信（1978年7月31日）published in Gerald Durrell: An Authorized Biography by Douglas Botting (1999)。

嫉妒有什么意思

嫉妒有什么意思？相信每个人都读书的时候都学过嫉妒这个词，嫉妒其实是一个中性词，对于嫉妒很多人都想知道在日常生活中代表着什么，下面我分享嫉妒有什么意思的相关文章，一起来看下吧。

嫉妒是对他人的优越地位而心中产生的不愉快的情感。

定义：同处一个系统中的A与B两个的物体本来能量场大致相等，方向相同，但当A的能量场突然大于B的能量场时，如果B的质量大于A的质量时，B的能量场将会限制或试图限制A的能量场的增大，B的这种限制或试图限制A的能量场增加的欲望就叫做嫉妒。反之，如果B的质量小于A的质量时，B的能量场将无能力限制A的能量场的增加，反面将会被A的能量场带动增大，B的这种试图被A的`能量场带动增大的欲望叫做羡慕。

心理学家发现，成功人士对那些嫉妒他们的人更和蔼可亲。担心自己会成为恶意嫉妒目标，使人们更愿意帮助那些他们认为嫉妒他们的人。

以前的研究发现，嫉妒可分为良性嫉妒和恶意嫉妒两种。那些持良性嫉妒心理的人，会把这当作提高自己的动力，因为只有他们表现更好，才能更像他们羡慕的人。然而，那些持恶意嫉妒心理的人会想方设法把更成功的人拉下马。荷兰研究人员询问了被嫉妒的人受到的影响。

嫉妒的分类

一、理性的嫉妒

如果你希望和某个人维持一个长久的联系，可是由于你的爱人对旁人付出了关心，你因此就担心自己和他之间的关系，那么你就会发出一种合乎理性的嫉妒。

比如，你所爱的人有可能移情别恋，而与你疏远，你会失去和他相处的机会，或是他本身，由此，你很轻易地就可以证明，对方会离你而去。会让你在各个方面蒙受损失，因此，你绝不会喜欢这种感受，于是你就有严重的挫折感，这就是理性的嫉妒。

在情感中，吃醋是普遍的一种心理感受，即使彼此深深相爱，也会因为某个事件，其中一方还是会吃醋。理性的嫉妒不会导致你采取极端的手法，你在遇到情感问题的时候，你会用爱来应对，也就是说弥补自己的爱，用更加完美的爱去牢牢拴住对方。

二、非理性的嫉妒

有一些人对感情产生某种不安的感觉后，就会采用非常极端的手法，比如像福尔摩斯一样找出对方的蛛丝马迹，或者窃听对方的电话，或者偷看对方的短信，甚至去派人跟踪对方。这些极端的手法非但无益于问题的解决，而且会加速你本来珍惜的家庭的崩溃，这些源于“非理性的嫉妒”。产生非理性嫉妒的思维模式通常有以下几种：

1、“我在婚姻方面，一定得有保证，保证对方只对我动心，并且用无尽的爱来对待我。”

2、“如果我不是爱人惟一的心动对象，我就糟糕透顶，这种事情我是绝对无法忍受的。”

3、“如果爱人对别的人动了心，就说明我不好。”

生活，包括感情，从根本上讲没有什么保证，爱不是婚姻的全部，婚姻是一种生活方式，根本没有人会一生一世地爱着你。用语言和情绪去交换彼此的忠诚，是没有实际效用的。那该如何获得婚姻的忠诚呢？你要全心全意地努力着，和伴侣创造一个仅仅能容纳你们双方的亲密关系，并且将这段亲密关系经营得很好，这样就让你的爱人不会再想和他人建立相同的关系，同时还非常高兴地和你相处在一起。

如何对待嫉妒自己的人

大智若愚，难得糊涂

孔子曾说：聪明圣智，守之以愚;功被天下，守之以让;勇力抚世，守之以情;富有四海，守之以谦。这其中一个重要的道理是：当一个人在鲜花与掌声中时，更需谦虚、谨慎，不要过分吹嘘自己的成就，这不仅防备被嫉妒，而且能从根本上调整自己。

主动关心对方，以爱化恨

以爱化恨法主要是以真诚的爱心去感化嫉妒者。所以，当你遇到嫉妒者时，主动关心和帮助会让其嫉妒之心化解大半。如果遇到嫉妒者向你发出挑战，以谦卑的心理代之，以不失原则的适度忍让来求大同存小异，或是求大同存大异，都不失为化解嫉妒，免遭嫉妒的好方式。

思考对方因何嫉妒你

比较主动的处理问题方式是，思考你与嫉妒者之间存在的嫉妒根源。比如嫉妒你的生活条件，嫉妒你的人际关系，嫉妒你的机会。想清楚这些原因才能有助于你协调与嫉妒者的关系。

与其加强沟通和交流

有些嫉妒心是因为缺乏沟通而产生，所以加强沟通，可以避免误会越来越深。在说服嫉妒者时要注意心平气和，也要做好多次才能说服的准备。另外，光说服是不够平复对方嫉妒心情的，所以针对性的鼓励十分有效，主要是客观地分析他的长处，强化他的信心，转变他的错误想法，而且还要在力所能及的情况下，为嫉妒者提供一些实质性的帮助，使嫉妒转向公平竞争。

懂得换位思考

心怀嫉妒的人很难相处，这是因为嫉妒是一种会导致人们嫉妒渴求关心、行为自私恼人的负面心理。而与这样的人相处，换位思考就至关重要。回想一下自己心怀嫉妒的经历。你有没有觉得无助?自卑?没有安全感?而这些正是嫉妒你的人正在经历的，所以对他们来说，也是挺不容易的。因此，对嫉妒你的人，就要抱有一种理解、同情的态度。

警惕嫉妒者报复行为

嫉妒一旦失控，人就会用各种自私的做法来使自己得到平衡。这种心怀嫉妒的人可能会挑拨你与其他人的关系，在工作上拆你的台，或是说各种尖酸刻薄的话来瓦解你的自信心。同情别人是善良的表现，但是一旦发现对方做出伤害你的事，你就要立即采取行动。

经常赞扬别人

赞扬嫉妒你的人是减轻嫉妒的好办法。这是因为嫉妒源于不安全感，而增强自信正是重建安全感的良方。假如下次你的朋友有人约，或是你的同事业绩傲人，就要真心去分享他们的的喜悦。

忽视心怀嫉妒的人

如果你不想去安慰对方，你也可以忽视其所作所为，然后等嫉妒慢慢消失。对方再怎么说你坏话，你不去在意就好了。等等他/她自己的情况好转时，自然就不会再嫉妒你了，说不定还能再度和你成为好朋友。

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