Parents love their children by nature, where Chinese mothers and fathers are no exceptions. Chinese parents tend to dote on their children because each family is allowed to have only one kid due to birth control. They place too much hope on the treasured child that if he wants the star, they might even climb to pick it. For self-centered, the spoiled children depend on their parents for everything. As a result, once confronted with harsh reality, they are more likely to yield to hardships and difficulties in life.
In China nowadays, most families have only one child, who gets more and more attention and love from their parents. Parent always try their best to meet the needs of the child because most of the time they are too busy with their work to stay with the only child. Then more and more parents tend to say "yes" to most of their children's demand as a method to make up for the lack of care. However, it's not a blessing to always say "yes" to children.
Indulgence from parents is very likely to throw bad influence on their children. For one thing, the only child of a family has difficulty distinguishing right and wrong. They used to get "yes" from others. Therefore, once they are refused, they will feel angry because in their mind, nobody can say "no" to them. Now, there are many bad events that youngsters hurt or kill others just because they are refused.For another thing, children will form the habit of getting something for nothing. They take everything they get for granted with no gratitude. They have formed the view that their parents have the duty to buy everything for them.Finally, most of the only children are selfish. Being the only child in the family, they needn't share anything with other, so usually they don't realize the importance of share.
In short, parent are supposed to take some effective measures to prevent the negative influences of overindulgence on their children, and parents should bear in mind that it's no good to the children's growth if they always say "yes" to them.
Nowadays, it is not rare to see that the parents spoil the child, they love the kid by the way they think it’s best for them. When it comes to spoil the child, different people have different opinions, some people think that it is fine to spoil the child, parents should treat them as best as they could; while the rest held that parents should teach the child rationally. In my point of view, I agree with the later one.
In the first place, parents are the children’s first teacher, they will believe everything from their parents’ education and they are a good copycat, they will simulate the action form their parents. For instance, when a child fight in school, some parents will not analysis why the fight begins, they will blame the child who fight with their kid no matter it is their kin’s fault or not. This is absolutely make the child believe that he is right about everything, which will make them hard to tell what is wrong or right.
In the second place, since now lots parents buy a whole bunch expensive stuff for their child, it might easily cause the problem of wasting or comparing with others. Children who are proud of their favorable living conditions are more tend to look down to the one are poor. Besides, once they are living in the lower live level than they are expected, they might feel maladjustment or even abandon themselves.